“Do you take pride in your hurt?” Samuel asked. “Does it make you seem large and tragic?”
“I don’t know.”
“Well, think about it. Maybe you’re playing a part on a great stage with only yourself as audience.”John Steinbeck, East of Eden
Ooooof. That one hurts. It reminded me of one of my favorite quotes (and I do love a good quote):
Why should we feel anger at the world? As if the world would notice.Marcus Aurelius
On a recent episode of our podcast, I was rambling about how at the end of a hard day, I’m grumpy. And I know I could choose to stop being grumpy, but that grumpiness feels deserved. It makes me feel “large and tragic.”
Marcus Aurelius is right; the world doesn’t notice that I’m mad at it. I’m the only audience for that tragedy. As my friend Jace likes to say: “nobody cares, work harder.”
And sure, “a hard day” isn’t anywhere near the scale of hurt that lots of people are dealing with. I’ve dealt with some of those types of hurt too. And I took pride in my hurt, and I felt large and tragic. I was furious with the world. In some ways I still am, years later. Wanna guess how much good it’s done me?