Stop planning to do this or that when you aren’t as busy as you are right now.
And why do we care so much about giving feedback? And why the frick are we wasting so much time with our people on personal development?
Professors don’t have the time to completely rewrite their course materials every year.
Most positives have their negatives, and most negatives have their positives.
Fixed time, flexible scope. That’s the sweet spot.
Now I can see at a glance where my days are going! And I can group related meetings together easier! And it’s colorful!
What would you drop? What would you keep? What would you shorten?
A few weeks ago, I wrote about dealing with imposter syndrome. Then I read a book about it and noticed that it didn’t resonate with what I was feeling after all. So I spent a few weeks pondering…
Because it sucks to have someone stepping on your toes.
Think about your core values. Is the goal to maximize each of them? Or do you want to find some satisfactory level and stay there?
A while back, I wrote about my group chat addiction. I’ve done two things that have helped a lot since then.
On how much we suck at assuming best intent.
Because if someone is staying quiet, that doesn’t mean they’re on board.
Interesting how much school creeps into adulthood, long after you’ve graduated.
My 12 week goals for March 29 through June 20, 2021.
I wrapped up a 12 week goals cycle. Here’s a summary of how it went.
If you’re not, then you waited too long.
What’s an engineering team’s version of “hanging off a cliff together, and being wet and cold and miserable together”?
Let’s stop talking about team building and start talking about team growing.
There are a lot of reasons not to split someone’s time between two or more teams. But the one that never gets talked about is jelling.
There are 2 ends of the spectrum: the “be my buddy” end and the “be my coach” end.
This quote from Peopleware touched my soul. It’s about becoming a leader, the hard (and only) way. Read it.
Your team thinks you’re wearing it even when you don’t.
Blaming “politics” is a lazy way of saying “not my fault.” But it is your fault, because everything is your fault.
Think of the recurring meeting on your calendar with the lowest engagement, and try these options for fixing it.
Too many people use “I’m a servant leader” as a defense for doing nothing unless someone asks for help. It’s a tasty phrase that bad leaders use to justify inaction.
I’ve been in this position. The whole “Wait, why am I managing her? She should be managing me!” thing.
The vast majority of gifts are a waste of money. But the receivers are so experienced at faking excitement that the givers never realize how much their gifts suck.
Subconsciously, I’ve always felt like I needed to fill the time. A shortened meeting was a source of embarrassment for me, not pride.
It sucks when the thing I’m procrastinating is unavoidable, but most “unavoidable” things actually aren’t.
A gift is not an obligation. You can do what you want with it.
Salary negotiation has the highest ROI of any skill in the world.
Fear of conflict is the killer of psychological safety.
Imposter syndrome sucks and I’m working through a rough case of it. Whenever something’s hard for me, I read a book about it.
And if it’s your fault, you can do something about it.
Dearest notifications, I welcome you back with open arms.
By feeling like an imposter, I end up acting like one. We become what we are told we are, and I told myself that I’m an imposter.
Are pawns on a team necessary to that team’s health, or damaging to it?
When someone says retros aren’t valuable, they usually mean easy retros aren’t valuable.
If you ask everyone you meet who else you should meet, they’ll try hard to think of someone that nobody else has suggested.
I hope this helps someone besides myself!
The pleasure isn’t in doing the thing, the pleasure is in planning it. – John Green
So you want to be a better coworker. He’s what you do.
“The silliness level of a team is a decent proxy for jelling, which is a decent proxy for performance.”
How many thousands of problems have I “solved” in my career, when really I was just treating the symptoms of bad relationships?
Async standups are a way for teams to kill standups without feeling guilty about it.
It’s hard to make a small group suffer for the sake of a larger goal, but it’s necessary.
Next time you need to put together a strategy for solving a problem, try this out.
Being liked is a trap, so put on your big boy britches and muster up the courage to be disliked.
Write a bunch of short, atomic posts and cross-reference them and you’re golden.
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