Sometimes, those are the options. Being more selfish could mean:
- Taking more PTO, even when you don’t have a reason, and even when your team is busy
- Grabbing the fun ticket, leaving someone else with the grunt work ticket
- Choosing something that’s interesting over something that’s higher priority (whatever that means)
- Postponing or skipping a meeting just because you didn’t sleep well
If you’re worried your team will hate you, then remember that they’d prefer this over you burning out and quitting. Be honest with them about what’s going on. They’ll support you.