Nice things should be repeated

A wife had been married to her husband for over 40 years, and although she told him she loved him practically every day, he never said it back.

One morning she asked him why, and he replied, “I said it on our wedding day and I’d let you know if I had changed my mind”.

Source: an email forward I got in 1997

There’s nothing wrong with saying the same nice thing over and over.

So last month you already told Suzy from the DB team that her knowledge of spatial indexes is impressive. Who cares, tell her again. “Once again your knowledge of spatial indexes blows me away.”

The great tragedy of compliments is that the receivers may think the givers don’t feel that way anymore if they stop saying so, but the givers assume the receivers know it’s still true unless they hear otherwise.

So keep up that complimenting habit.