Toxic transparency

The ugly opposite of artificial harmony:

Some things that may look like transparency are actually toxic. Think gossip, manipulation, and unproductive venting that pits one person or group against another. This may seem obvious, but it can be hard to reflect in the moment. I’ve certainly made this mistake, especially when stressed. But when transparency can be a way of honestly connecting with someone, where’s the line?

I try my best to draw it at: What can I say that would not embarrass me if another person or group heard it? Have I given the party mentioned this feedback directly?

Sarah Drasner, Engineering Management for the Rest of Us